Choosing to be Happy

Choose to be happy.  Sounds like a pretty stereotypical “self-help” mantra, which I guess it is.  For me, it is more than that.  It is how I am trying to live my life.  I guess I’ve been on this journey for a while, not always being successful, but trying nonetheless.

 

I claimed the statement for myself a few months ago.  At the time, I was standing around the cafe that I own.  It wasn’t very busy, so my staff and I were chatting about all manner of things.  Eventually, one of them asked for one piece of advice that we would each give to someone just graduating from high school and starting to make their way in the world.  Being in my mid-40s, it was something I hadn’t really thought about much.  That said, the answer came to me without any hesitation…”Choose to be Happy”.  After some more thought, this idea just seemed to take root and grow quickly within my mind.  It just didn’t apply to the main categories of life decisions (work, love, home) but to even the smallest things (tonight’s dinner, the shirt I am wearing to work, how many cups of coffee I want to drink).

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Gavin knows how to be happy.

The articulation of the philosophy was a bit of a revelation for me. I guess it grew from something that I had been talking with my husband about when we first met. He was studying the Course in Miracles and we got to talking about how the only person in control of your world was yourself.
 
It is not an easy thing…choosing to be happy…especially for someone with a fiery temper. I get frustrated easily and used to let it burn. When someone cut me off in the traffic line-up I would shout and give them the finger. Eventually, I started to control this reaction. I still get frustrated…but it lasts a short while and then I just let go.  It doesn’t mean that I don’t care or that I am flippant about things, but it does mean that I easily remind myself that I need to let go of the things that don’t make me happy.
This blog is part of my journey.  Documenting things allows me to look back and see what I have learned, what I have done and what I choose.  If anyone reads this, hopefully they will connect and maybe, just maybe, choose to be happy.